Subtlety and Nuance
Not-so-subtle behavior will flag aspects of your personality. For example, when late, you convey that your time is more important than the person you meet. When you constantly glance at your smartphone, you imply that your business is more important than the person you’re with; you convey selfishness, discourtesy, or indifference. If you litter the planet, you convey carelessness, and disrespect for your surroundings. Discourtesy, disrespect, or indifference are undesirable traits in today’s world.
Change is best effected not through coercion, threat, or violence, but through encouragement provided by mentorship and education. People of respected character remain unseen in the background while influencing progress toward goals. They use minimal direction while providing low-key but powerful guidance and inspiration.
Good listeners observe a speaker’s accompanying gestures. They sense a person’s nuances in body language, content, and feeling. They employ their senses, intuition, and people skills in subtle, patient ways. Their quiet encouragement inspires others toward self-actualization.
In our fascination with immediate image and surface impressions, we often overlook underlying beauty or meaning. To perceive detail, look beneath the apparent and obvious. Apply the acuteness of your mind in a thorough, discriminating appraisal. Be aware of cultural nuance. View a flower closely to truly see its intricate perfection. Sense when your presence is not desired. Detect intended messages in written, verbal, and nonverbal expression.
To live in reality, see beyond good and evil, black and white, or right and wrong. Think in subtle, nuanced shades of gray.